Wednesday, December 1, 2010
Some of you may be thinking that these questions are silly and rhetorical. But the reality is that our young people experience these circumstances on a daily bases. It is the majority of our young girls who are being conditioned to leave the decisions surrounding sex up to our young men and when pregnancy happens, their left alone to make the decision. This NEEDS TO STOP! But sadly, without proper education, this will continue to affect our young women of color on a daily bases.
The reality is, as the old saying goes "momma's baby, daddy's maybe". The woman is the one who will have to give birth; which can potentially be life threatening, definitely costly and very much so demanding in every aspect. I'm not saying that men don't have a say in this process. They're opinion should definitely be considered and respected. All I'm saying is men should understand that whether the woman chooses to continue or terminate her pregnancy, this is something that directly affects her body not his!
Monday, November 15, 2010
I can remember being 15 and not being able to learn anything about sex or boys from my mother, and I think that's why I was a mother at the age of 16. Luckily, I learned from that so I make sure me and my daughter have an open line of communication about EVERYTHING. Although her friend isn't my child I felt obligated to use that opportunity to educate her about her body and the importance of sex safe if and when she chooses to have sex. I am thankful I was able to have a meaningful conversation with someone that really needed it. If you ever have the opportunity to educate a young woman please do! There are so many young woman who don't get that at home. Even if they can't talk to someone at home having someone that they can turn to could change their life.
Friday, November 5, 2010
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Monday, October 18, 2010
All I can think is what reasons are behind this act that this woman did. In the article it sounds like she wanted the baby so it doesn't sound like she was abandoning the child.Anytime a woman hides a pregnancy there is cause behind it, and most of the time it's because someone is ridiculing them for there choice or threatening their lives.I believe there's way more to this story than the media is displaying.
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Friday, October 15, 2010
A woman who abandoned her newborn 5-pound son in a neighbor’s yard after secretly giving birth last year outside her Wheaton apartment received a maximum three-year prison term today.
Nunu Sung, a refugee from Myanmar, was sentenced as part of a deal that saw her plead guilty to a felony charge of obstructing justice for lying to police about giving birth to the infant on June 12, 2009.
The petite, dark-haired Sung, now 25, wept softly throughout the hearing, then was immediately taken into custody after DuPage County Judge Blanche Fawell imposed the prison term.
Sung, who has been in the United States for about four years, accepted the prison sentence because she hopes it will allow her to remain in the U.S. and to ultimately gain custody of her son, her attorney said following the hearing.
“She’s taking a very difficult sentence for her to both stay here and eventually reunite with her child,” DuPage County Public Defender Jeff York said.
As part of her plea deal, prosecutors agreed not to seek to terminate her parental rights to the child, whom hospital workers named “Joshua” while he was in their care.
Sung, who had been free on bond, had been seeing her son weekly in supervised visits since August 2009, though he remains in foster care under the supervision of the Illinois Department of Children and Family Services.
She likely will serve more than a year behind bars before being paroled. York said it wasn’t immediately clear if she would be allowed to see her son while she is locked up.
Sung became pregnant while living in Texas, authorities said, then moved to Wheaton in February 2009 to live with a cousin and the cousin’s husband — though she hid her pregnancy from them, officials have said.
Sung left her apartment several hours before giving birth, telling her relatives she was going for a walk. They contacted police early on June 12, 2009, to report Sung hadn’t returned home, though officers later found Sung in the apartment.
While she was being questioned by police, a neighbor discovered Sung’s naked, newborn infant — with part of the umbilical cord still attached — crying softly under bushes at the edge of the neighbor’s property.
Sung ultimately admitted giving birth to the youngster, who suffered no serious medical problems despite his unusual birth.
Sung has accepted that she erred in abandoning the youngster and agreed to the prison term in hopes it will enable her to ultimately keep her child and her residency in the U.S.
“Trying to get her kid back was her first priority, staying here was her second priority — and her own welfare was her last concern,” York said.
Sung said little during the hearing but repeatedly dabbed her eyes after the judge handed her a box of tissues early in the sentencing hearing. She waved to several relatives and friends as she was taken from the courtroom to begin her sentence.
This is a very serious issue and we only hear of a few of the stories in media once it becomes a tragedy. So just imagine all the stories that we don't hear about in the news. I feel that the abuser is 100% percent wrong for abusing anyone, but these people obviously have mental health issues. Men are usually perpetrated as abusers and in some situations they are, but no one should be a victim of domestic violence. That's the reason it's so important that the women abusers are treated just like men abusers. I know women that are very abusive to their partners ALL THE TIME! and they are not ridiculed at all. I'm not by any means defending men abusers, but as a woman that believes in total equality despite your gender feels society needs to stop making the face of domestic violence an abused woman. I also know that until recently men were able to abuse women and women really didn't have any protection from law enforcement. So it's a milestone that we have the laws that we have in place now and they their is even recognition for domestic violence. I am well aware that so many lives were put at risk and taken for those changes to happen. However, it's unrealistic to think that those lives were only womens lives.
I think its also very important to mention that same sex couples are not excluded from this kind of violence. This is not just a heterosexual situation either, and my heart goes out to all survivors of domestic violence. This is a HUMAN issue and if you know any PERSON that is experiencing domestic violence, whether they are the abuser or abusee please do all that you can to get them some help!
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Monday, October 11, 2010
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Monday, October 4, 2010
The following offices that are up for election: U.S. Senator
Governor and Lt. Governor
Secretary of State
Representatives in Congress
I can't stress enough how important it is for everyone to vote. Every vote counts and although we haven't seen all the triumphs we expected, we can't afford to let the right wingers take control!!!! We must put forth every effort to keep the democrats in control. So do your research on prospective candidates and if you need more information about voters registration and/or election day visit: www.elections.il.gov/InfoForVoters.aspx
Let's continue to make the attempt to progress further by placing a vote November 2, 2010!!!!
Thursday, September 23, 2010
They all came together to say "The National coalition demands Alveda King to stop using her uncle's historic civil rights legacy to target Black women's bodies." They all shared their personal stories and gave their responses to Alveda King's actions. I think that they all did a wonderful job with covering all aspects of the situation; and I also feel like they did an excellent job at calling her out to assist with the bigger picture at hand. That being, YES, there is an increase in women of color getting abortions; but THE ISSUE really is that women of color are living in poverty and don't have access to their reproductive health options. That's the problem!!
So to Alveda King, stop fighting us for the wrong issue; and help us fight to end poverty among women of color and help us fight to get access to all of our reproductive health options.
Monday, September 13, 2010
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Friday, August 27, 2010
So how is that women who are usually responsible for the parenting accused of intentionally killing their own race, because they decide when they want to be a parent. I am so feed up with society always trying to make women feel like they are wrong for choosing whats best for them and their families.......
We have to all come together and take a stand,because like I said many times before I am a parent and I've had abortions. With all the other violence and serious issues that are going on today why is a women choice on the menu consistently?
Sunday, August 15, 2010
Friday, August 13, 2010
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So save the date- September 23rd- and we'll see you there!
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
When I was 15 (maybe I was 14?), I was put on birth control pills by my ob/gyn. I know, most girls that young don't have an ob/gyn. I did. I started my period when I was 11 and it was was trouble from the start. I bled heavily, my cramps were so bad I'd pass out, I'd skip a few months then bleed a few weeks straight, etc. etc. So the doctor diagnosed me with polycystic ovarian syndrome and put me on birth control pills to help regulate me and see if they helped my other symptoms.
I barely got through two-month free sample packet before I threw them out. I got moody, depressed and started having thoughts of suicide. I got better once I took myself off of the pills, refused to go back on them and dredged through my symptoms, balancing midols, hearbals teas and sleep to try to get through the worst of it.
Because of my experience, I'm still weary of hormonal birth control methods for myself (despite knowing more about contraception now- the dosages were probably all wrong and I should have talked to my ob/gyn). I've vaguely considered getting an IUD, but I have metal sensitivities so the only other option in the US is the Mirena- which I've heard positive things about concerning women who react negatively to hormones, but I haven't gotten around to that yet. Did I also mention I have a sensitivity to latex? Contraception for me is a battleground of allergies/sensitivities along with price/moral* issues, one that I'm still negotiating, depending on who I'm with and where I am in my life.
So, there's my contraception story. What's yours?
*I'm vegan, so I don't use animals products, or products tested on animals, where possible. Which is tricky when you're talking about medicine- of which most must be legally be tested on animals.
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Monday, July 26, 2010
Sunday, July 25, 2010
Talking to the activist in Kentucky let me really see that although we have it hard it's much worse in other states. Being an activist we hear all these stories about no access, but you feel a different impact when you're in the midst of people that face those oppressions first hand. It is heartbreaking to know that they only have two clinics and one provider, and they cost of a 1st trimester abortion is outrageous!
I'm glad I was given another opprotunity to go and spread the word about CAF and My Voice, My Choice leadership group. I want to thank all the Kentucky RJ activist and the Kentucky Medical Students for Choice that welcomed us like a family and sang us many praises.......
I just back to Chicago a few hours ago and I'm in a "Save the World" state of mind!
Thinking of a master plan........................
Friday, July 23, 2010
I say "this is Em from CAF, that's C-A-F, calling about your procedure in (month)" and it can take a minute- I like to wait for the moment of remembrance before I go on, just in case. Sometimes they get terse once the realize who it is. Sometimes they get excited. Most times, they just don't know what to expect. I don't blame them. Most of the women we help are used to uncaring workers or ridiculously bureaucratic government processes that aim to get them out of programs, not really to help them.
I ask them how everything was at the clinic, note any concerns or great experiences they had. I ask how they're doing now, go down the list of questions we have for our follow up process, and see if they have any needs in their life that an organization or agency we know of can help them with.
Sometimes they cry, and I refer them to hotlines to talk to trained professionals. I always tell them they can call me if they want to talk and I will gladly listen, but I'm not an actual counselor. Sometimes, the crying is because they're so happy that someone even cares to make sure they're OK. Other times- most of the time- it's because in a different situation, they would have decided to continue with the pregnancy. Sometimes, they don't say why they're crying and I just sit through it, but I tell them it'll get better, eventually.
Sometimes they chatter away, so excited to talk to someone because they feel isolated but oh-so-grateful that the procedure was taken care of. They make promises to pay back the grant in a few years, when they're in a better place, when this job finally calls them back, once their kids' daycare costs aren't so much. I assure them it's fine, not to worry, but if they do donate, it will definitely go to another woman in need.
Sometimes, they're still defensive through the whole interview, wondering when I'm going to pull the rug from under them- are we going to send them a bill eventually or if they answer a question "wrong"? Will we expect them to do something for us? Am I going to call DCFS on them because they're too poor for the kids they already had before all this?
I hang up, wishing them a good night and reassuring that they can call us at any time, worried about the cynical ones, wondering how much the world has beat them up, and the sad ones, wondering how much they're beating themselves up. I take comfort in the ones- the majority- who are just grateful that we helped them and hope they pull themselves out of whatever bad situations they're in. They got through our phone lines and the clinic's picket lines, they gathered as much money as they could and did whatever they deemed they had to do, by a mixture of extreme determination and I'm sure a little luck- hopefully that helps them everywhere else in their lives.
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
Abortion will cause breast cancer and condoms are not effective at preventing pregnancy and desease!!
CVS PHARMACY: They are hiring like crazy everywhere. All you have to do is apply online from there website www.cvs.com. The application process is kind of long but its worth it for a little extra cash.
YAHOO JOBS: If you ever go to yahoo.com there is a panel of options on the left hand side of the screen. One of those options is a yahoo jobs icon. If you click on it and type in your city, they pull up a whole bunch of job opportunities.
So....GOOD LUCK with the job search!!!
Friday, July 2, 2010
Wednesday, June 30, 2010
Friday, June 25, 2010
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
On top of all of that men are often trying to control our choice then we are the ones that have to bear the consequences ...... I just want to say if you are parenting alone... Kudos....
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
First off, this is a complete misrepresentation of miscarriages and the situations that surround them. Miscarriages are hard to study scientifically- of one study, 22% of pregnant women miscarried before a standard urine test could even register that they were pregnant. An additional 9% of women in the study miscarried.
The risk of possible miscarriages drop significantly after you can hear the embryo's heartbeat on an ultrasound- generally after 6 weeks. That's a 2 week period (assuming the woman has a 28 day cycle and took a pregnancy test at 4 week) where miscarriages are apt to happen and the woman would know.
Further, I'd really like to know what "technology exists!" that can detect if you're likely to miscarry or not that doesn't cost thousands of dollars. The technology that exists is expensive and women who suffer repeat miscarriages use it to aid their fertility. It's not designed for the average woman to detect if she's likely to miscarry or not (especially not in the hopes that she will). The website simply states that they'll do an urine test (i.e., the same pee stick you get at a corner store) and an ultrasound (and I'd really like to see what they say at the appointment).
I'm not sure where the "enlightenment" comes from this website. Misconstrued facts and studies to meet their anti-choice ends? Telling women who are possibly in crisis to wait- and wait- and wait until they miscarry, so when the woman opts for an abortion, the cost of the procedure is more, the process is longer, and the possible risks to the woman (mostly involving general anesthesia) grow. Not to mention a miscarriage is a medical complication that can harm and/or kill a woman depending on the details surrounding her miscarriage.
This is disgusting, and I really hope the women who stumble upon the website realize the information they are presenting is being done in a way to sway them in the direction on one possible choice in life.
Thursday, June 3, 2010
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Here's part 1 of 3. Check 'em all out and let us know what you think!
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
During the interview I realized that they too have a access barriers. The barriers that the medical students face today is access to adequate abortion education and training. Abortion is not apart of a medical students curriculum regardless of the specialty they choose. So if they want this education and training, they have to seek outside sources. They have to seek an outside curriculum in addition to their already intense curriculum.
After doing this interview, it kind of gave me a look at all ends of the spectrum regarding abortion access barriers . We know those faced by women needing services; we know those faced by providers trying to provide services; and now we know those faced by medical students trying to become providers. So now that we know all of this, what can we do?
Friday, May 14, 2010
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Sunday, May 2, 2010
Friday, April 16, 2010
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
"We believe that abortion is a political pawn in a fight to control women's bodies..."
Why is Dawn bowling? Her answer's very succinct: "[I] rock and so do[es Chicago Abortion Fund]". She's pretty far from her goal- can you help with a donation?
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
"Affinity Community Services signed up because Gaylon Alcaraz is an incredible leader and activist. And the work that the Chicago Abortion Fund is pivotal in terms of women's reproductive rights and human rights. At ACS we stand in solidarity with those engaged in the struggle for women's reproductive rights and human rights. If you are not free, then neither are we. If you do not have the right to choose then neither do we. And so we must all stand together! Our name corresponds to our celebration of 15 Years of Wellness, Leadership, Artistry, Organizing, Activism, Advocacy in LGBTQA Communities."
Will you help them meet their goal?
Today's bowler of the day is Jo Pollock, of the Vegan Vixens, who speaks of being a high school counselor on her page.
She's $40 away from her goal, can you help?
Monday, April 12, 2010
Why is the "Stupak is a Pin-head" team bowling? Glad you asked!
"We are a group of college students bowling for abortion access because abortion is health care, and access to health care is a human right. Therefore, access to abortion is a human right, and we are proud to support programs which help women exercise their right to choose."
They're $185 away from their goal- can you help them?
Why is Anne Elizabeth Moore bowling?
"My own abortion in 1994 was undertaken as a public education project, despite that I was in the conservative state of Wisconsin just as the backlash against feminism was gaining momentum..."
Check out more on her page: http://bowlathon.nnaf.org/nnafbowl/participantpage.asp?fundid=150&uid=416&role=3
Sunday, April 4, 2010
Here's part one (of three), from February- Brittany, part of the My Voice My Choice Leadership of Chicago Abortion Fund (CAF), interviews me, the Client Services Coordinator of CAF. I talk about the recession's effects on the fund.
Saturday, April 3, 2010
Here's part one (of three), from March- where Nicole, from the My Voice, My Choice Leadership Group of Chicago Abortion Fund, interviews Kim from Affinity Community Services, an organization that works with LGBTQ African American women & youth in Chicago.
Monday, March 29, 2010
I just want to thank the amazing women of the My Voice, MyChoice leadership group. You all are blossoming and setting goals for yourselves and your families and I think it is a privilege to watch you all grow!
I have to agree with Brittany, Nicole your education forum was the bomb!!!!! It was really cold and windy that day, but people came out to hear what you had to say and I know they were glad they did.......
We are doing it ladies and doing it well..... We have so much more ahead of us..... So keep up the great work!
Look for the MVMC ladies in your community doing outreach and education!
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Saturday, March 27, 2010
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
It makes me so angry that abortion funding was dropped from the healthcare reform bill. I can't believe that women who have so many other services provided to them for free because they are too poor to afford them, are basically forced into motherhood because they don't have the money to cover the procedures they decided was best for them in their situation. It's so frustrating.
I wonder if this politicians have ever listened to a women break down crying on the phone, because she's basically been forced to beg for hundred of dollars from strangers. Or have a mother call them for her daughter, who didn't even realize she was pregnant until her second trimester; or a mom whose daughter just told her she was raped- and pregnant from it. Or have a clinic worker calling for a women who is homeless and without a phone, but at the clinic and with only $20 of an almost $1,000 procedure. Or, best yet, the joy in someone's voice when I just solved their problem and they can go on being the best student/mother/daughter/worker that they can.
I wonder if they listened to any women at all when they passed it?
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
My heart is heavy for the family of our friend Dr. George Tiller. Dr. Tiller was murdered in his place of worship last May. And although the responsible party, Scott Roeder was convicted, it doesn't make the pain go away.
Women have the right to make decisions for themselves! They have the right to determine when and if they will parent. They have the absolute right to govern the body they live in. Dr. Tiller understood this as do all the other providers!
Trust Women.....because if you can't, how can you trust them with children?
I'd like to thank everyone who helps women obtain the abortions they want and need- from my fellow co-workers at CAF and the volunteers/leadership group members who dedicate their time to help make choice possible to the other funds & logistics organizations that help women pay for their procedures, help drive/fly them to clinics, or watch their children while they are at the doctor's.
A big, big thank you to the clinic staff, who walk through picket lines and are targeted for harassment (or worse) in their service to women & their families. A special thanks to the ones who take the time & energy to really counsel the women in their care to make sure that, not only is an abortion the best option, but whom go out of their way to help in any other way they can- referring to other agencies and organizations, even if the patient decides to continue the pregnancy. I always appreciate when the clinics we work with take the time to not only make the space a healthy, safe environment but also a warm, inviting and caring place.
And of course, where would we be without our doctors, nurse practitioners, pharmacists and all others who directly perform and/or assist women with their abortions? Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for what you do. Under constant attack- verbally, emotionally & all-too-often physically-, you continue to press on with your much needed skills. I am ever so grateful that you continue to help women.
My heart goes out to Dr. Tiller's family & staff today, and hope that they are comforted by the good he did.
Monday, March 8, 2010
Monday, March 1, 2010
Thursday, February 25, 2010
I've been a little busy on my end so I haven't been checking the blogs lately...but I just finished reading some of the most authentic, honest and heart warming blogs from the women I mentor....women in the leadership group. These young women are so dynamic that I forget I'm mentoring them. Especially since I'm learning so much from them. To read over the blogs tonight and see the comments and posts around slavery to the endangered species to paternity tests to domestic violence....all wrapped up in the choice framework....I see these women have on their critical thinking hats for real! But more importantly they come to the table with their hearts open and full of trust in doing this work.
This is such an amazing experience for me. I wouldn't trade it for anything. Ladies....thank you for showing me how to live fully in the moment in the most authentic way possible.
Much love and God's everlasting peace to all of you!
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Monday, February 15, 2010
Thursday, February 4, 2010
This won't be one show that garnishes my attention.