I get what you saying

I tot tally understand you crystal but you have to look at the background of our culture. When the Europeans came over to Africa we were families and the man was the provider and protector but in came these people with the idea of slavery and their concept was divide and conquer. Ever since then for some reason it has been an on going cycle. Not only that nowadays it is being portrayed that being a baby daddy and baby mama is cool in black media. That's not cool at all. Now don't get me wrong I don't think its any excuse for our people not getting together and uniting as one as we were before. But allot of times people become a product of their environment instead of their imagination.