So I know Im probably super late seeing this but hey I can be busy sometimes. So I'm up watching glee on netflix the first season when Quin got pregnant and the story surrounding her pregnancy was so crazy first off the guy who she told she was pregnant by didnt even have sex with her he just ejaculated in a hot tub next to her and this showed how uneducated our youth can be about sex second he ask her if she was going to have it and she said yes without a doubt even though she new that her mom would be furious with her being in that predicament and that she had a whole future ahead of her that having a baby would throw a monkey wrench in then the guy went and told the teacher and he asked if he needed money for her to go to planned parenthood which was quite amusing because him being a male that was his first thought suprisingly so I guess Mr. Shuester is pro-choice. It just really tickled me how they skipped around the issue of abortion and thru the episode no one she told sat down and told her that she needed to think about all her options and decide what would be best for her.They either just criticized her and made her feel shameful for instance like kicking her off cheerleading team or posting that shes pregnant in the newspaper noone showed the least bit of empathy towards her or try to figure out how she got in that situation and see how she can avoid it again. It's funny how fiction is so close to the realities of society.
Monday, December 19, 2011
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Wednesday, December 14, 2011
This is a prime example of how people try to put a blanket on the all the underlying issues.As always some things are easier said than done. If you feel so different, then let's see if you put those kids up north in the schools out south and put the kids out south in the schools up north and see what the outcome is. This is frustrating that people think like this instead of how to make education equal no matter what the economic status.
Wednesday, November 30, 2011
So this morning I was watching this TV show that's been out for awhile called 16 and Pregnant which displays how it is to be pregnant at a young age. Even though this show has been out for so long I never really payed attention to it, but this morning I could not stop watching. So The first episode I watched was about a young black girl who had dreams of going off to a good college and becoming an English teacher for underprivileged kids. Her boyfriend was the star of the football team and had dreams of going off to college on a scholarship he gained from playing football. So long story short, she got pregnant and both of them had to put their dreams on hold. They got married because she was pregnant and they were living with his mother who was not happy with her at all. Then I watched another episode which I didn't get to finish but I got to see enough in the second episode. There was a young white girl who was still in high school and so was her boyfriend.Now the differences I noticed in these two episodes besides the color of their skin was what each girl admitted that they knew about having sex. The young black girl admitted that she didn't know anything and that they had used condoms until one time while having sex the condom broke and she was just following his lead because he was her first and she didn't know anything and she was disclosing this information to her friends who didn't say why didn't you use birth control or did you explore your other options like adoption or abortion i was just disgusted but not surprised at that conversation and not only that the boy friends mother was just horrible she placed all the blame on the girl for the situation and then went as far as to tell the girl that she needed to see a DNA test as if her son didn't participate in the actions it took to get someone pregnant. Last time i recall it takes two. So in the episode with the white girl she was having a conversation with her friends also on how she got pregnant and the difference was that her friends said to her I mean what happened you weren't using condoms or birth control there are all kinds of ways this could have been prevented. Which tells me that they had access to sex education and preventative services that they chose not to use where as the black girl didn't. Also instead of the white girls parents judging her and blaming the boy or the boy parents judging her and blaming her they came together collectively to get through the situation that was going on. It was just very upsetting to me seeing how the situation with the black girl played out verses the white girl. I know people get tired of hearing about how these things happen because of the differences made between races and classes but this fact will not stop being pointed out until it is no longer a fact and watching these two episodes lets me know that it still is and that is why i must continue to do the work I do even though it isn't always easy.Peace, Love, and Choice!
Monday, November 28, 2011
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Friday, November 4, 2011
Democratic Bill Would Expand Grants for Comprehensive Sex Education
November 4, 2011 — House and Senate Democrats on Wednesday unveiled legislation that would provide federal grants to high schools and colleges for comprehensive sex education programs, The Hill's "Floor Action Blog" reports. The House bill (HR 3324) was introduced by Rep. Barbara Lee (D-Calif.), while the Senate bill was introduced by Sen. Frank Lautenberg (D-N.J.).
The Real Education for Healthy Youth Act would expand "age-appropriate comprehensive sex education programs" that are "medically accurate and evidence-based." The bill specifies that no federal funds would be given to programs that withhold information about HIV/AIDS, are "medically inaccurate or have been scientifically shown to be ineffective," promote gender stereotypes, or are "insensitive and unresponsive to the needs of sexually active adolescents" or "the needs of lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender youth."
The bill also stipulates that grantees include information about abstinence, methods to prevent pregnancy and transmission of sexually transmitted infections, and how to avoid abusive relationships. Educational institutions that serve "needy students" and minorities would be given priority under the measure.
The bill would require HHS to measure the effectiveness of programs that receive grants. The assessment would evaluate whether students' behaviors changed as a result of the program and measure students' knowledge and skills in areas such as decision-making and condom use.
Lee said, "Research has shown programs that combine information about abstinence and contraception effectively delay the onset of sexual intercourse, reduce the number of sexual partners and increase contraceptive use among teens."
The bill does not recommend a specific funding level for the grants but would authorize appropriations deemed "necessary" to fulfill the bill's objectives (Kasperowicz, "Floor Action Blog," The Hill, 11/3).
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
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Thursday, September 29, 2011
We need to take a more active role in politics. Although we live in a "free" country, the laws that are in place are a constant reminder that we don't always have total control. The issue with not participating is what happens when you don't. At best you'll have a representative who supports and follows through with some of the issues. At worst you'll have a representative who is not only misleading the masses, but is also on a destructive warpath to annihilating everything we have worked for. I refuse to let this happen. I don't want someone in office who knows or cares nothing about the issues that affect me as an economically disadvantaged black woman and manipulatively misconstrues the modicum of information they think they know about me. We need someone in office who will actually make a valiant effort to fight for our rights. We need someone who looks like us and thinks like us.
Although we may not have many freedoms, one of the beautiful things about being an American citizen is that we can actively participate in our government. So please take advantage of this! As Plato said it best,"One of the penalties for refusing to participate in politics is that you end up being governed by your inferiors.”
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
"President Obama in a stunning, shocking level of power now just recently told all private insurance companies you must offer the morning-after abortion pill because I said so and it must be free of charge."
There are several reasons why this quote disturbs me. To begin, the morning- after pill is NOT the abortion pill. It is an amped up dosage of BIRTH CONTROL! How many times does that need to be reiterated before people finally understand?! They even explain it in the commercials. Bachmann should do her homework before she opens her mouth to spread lies. Another thing that perturbs me is that Bachmann is misinforming the masses. This is a powerful and dangerous thing. Lies spread like wildfires and before you know it they become out of control. This hurts and undermines our cause. Luckily, we have facts and the determination to spread the truth on our side.
Friday, September 23, 2011
Elizabeth Nash, public policy associate at the Guttmacher Institute, stated, "This law really isn't about health and safety, it's really about forcibly trying to dissuade a woman from getting an abortion any way the state can."
The 8th Circuit Court of Appeals did, however, rule to uphold Judge Schreier's decision to block enforcement of another provision of the law that requires that doctors tell women seeking abortions that women who undergo the procedure are more likely to commit suicide, which the court argued was unsubstantiated.
Thursday, September 22, 2011
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Tuesday, August 30, 2011
I think this bill is awesome! Finally someone realizes that no young girl grows up thinking I wanna be a prostitute. Also that the past is the past and in order to move towards a better future the past needs to be dropped allot of times. I was at a conference before and listened to a former prostitute express how hard it was for her to stay out of that lifestyle,because of the barriers placed on her because of her past. Like not being eligible for foodstamps or housing,that system leads to an unfortunate spiral of crime because people have to be able to at the very least clothe,feed, and shelter theirself. So kudos to gov. Pat Quinn for this change in law. It is a step towards complete reproductive freedom but there are plenty more to be taken.
Monday, August 29, 2011
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Signing off with my fem- fist held high!
Monday, August 8, 2011
Saturday, August 6, 2011
The United States Department of Health and Human Services has recently approved free birth control to be included in health insurance plans without a co-pay. You know what this means, right? I am going to have an exorbitant amount of premarital, no strings attached, unprotected sex! 'Cause you that's what all the right-wing conservatives are expecting me to do. For some odd reason they believe the sky is falling whenever a groundbreaking victory for women occurs. And here's a little advice for all you right-wingers out there: Just because you give someone free and easy access to contraceptives doesn't mean she'll turn into a nymphomaniac!
But I digress. It is truly amazing that many women will have access to free birth control. It's also amazing that the HHS's decision also includes breastfeeding supports and screening for gestational diabetes, HIV infection and domestic violence to be covered in health insurance plans without co-payment. However there's a loophole here: Religious employers have the option to refuse contraceptive coverage to their employees. What? I thought one of principles this country was founded on was the separation of church and state. Why must people's spiritual beliefs hinder people from accessing proper healthcare? Those right-wing beliefs have so stealthily slithered into what is supposed our victory. Don't get me wrong, I am absolutely ecstatic about being able to access birth control for free. I will definitely take advantage of that resource. I just feel that it should be available to all women. So we as women must continue to fight until all women have access. We've won the battle but not the war.
I found it with Feminist Quotes on the Android Market. : Because women's work is never done and is underpaid or unpaid or boring or repetitious and we're the first to get fired and what we look like is more important than what we do and if we get raped it's our fault and if we get beaten we must have provoked it and if we raise our voices we're nagging bitches and if we enjoy sex we're nymphos and if we don't we're frigid and if we love women it's because we can't get a 'real’ man and if we ask our doctor too many questions we're neurotic and/or pushy and if we expect childcare we're selfish and if we stand up for our rights we're aggressive and 'unfeminine’ and if we don't we're typical weak females and if we want to get married we're out to trap a man and if we don't we're unnatural and because we still can't get an adequate safe contraceptive but men can walk on the moon and if we can't cope or don't want a pregnancy we're made to feel guilty about abortion and...for lots of other reasons we are part of the women's liberation movement. ~Author unknown, quoted in The Torch, 14 September 1987
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Thursday, July 28, 2011
“They love America the way a four-year old loves her mommy. Liberals love America like grown-ups. To a four-year-old, everything Mommy does is wonderful and anyone who criticizes Mommy is bad. Grown-up love means actually understanding what you love, taking the good with the bad, and helping your loved one grow. Love takes attention and work and is the best thing in the world. That’s why we liberals want America to do the right thing. We know America is the hope of the world, and we love it and want it to do well. We also want it to do good.” -
— Al Franken
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
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Tuesday, July 5, 2011
So, I was on twitter and people were blowing up about the Casey Anthony case and how she was acquitted of murder charges. So someone had the audacity to make a comment telling some women they need to shut up because they know some of them get abortions on the way to the club.So me being the person I am, I commented telling them that getting an abortion does not compare to throwing a living viable child in the trunk on the way to the club.Unbelievable, the response of, "You're right, you just paid to kill your baby."So I hit them with the knowledge of how a fetus is not a child and I assumed they were anti choice. They told me they were pro choice but that doesn't mean you made the right choice. So I'm confused because I thought being pro choice meant being about what that woman feels is the right choice for her and not what you personally think is right or wrong for her to do.So are you really pro choice?
Thursday, June 30, 2011
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
Recently in the Wall Street Journal, MarketWatch columnist David Weidner noted that women "do almost everything better" than men — from politics to corporate management to investing.
Weidner cites a new study by Barclays Wealth and Ledbury Research, which found that women were more likely than men to make money in the market, mostly because they didn't take as many risks. And why are they risk-averse? Because they're not as overconfident as men, the study found.
The study's findings backed up those of previous research on the topic: in a 2001 study [PDF] of 35,000 American households with an account at a discount brokerage, financial scholars Brad Barber and Terrance Odean found that women's risk-adjusted returns beat men's by 1% annually. A 2005 study by Merrill Lynch found that 35% of women held an investment too long, compared with 47% of men. More recently, in 2009, a study by the mutual fund company Vanguard involving 2.7 million personal investors concluded that during the recent financial crisis, men were more likely than women to sell shares of stocks at all-time lows, leading to bigger losses among male traders. It also meant fewer gains when some of the stock values began to rise again.
What's the problem with men? "There's been a lot of academic research suggesting that men think they know what they're doing, even when they really don't know what they're doing," John Ameriks, the author of the Vanguard study, told the New York Times.
The reason for that overconfidence may come down to biology, research suggests. There's a growing field of study called "neuroeconomics," in which scientists are examining the link between hormonal and neurological impulses and financial decision-making. One such recent study by John Coates, a research fellow in neuroscience and finance at Cambridge University, tested male traders' hormone responses to workplace decisions. He found that testosterone — the stuff that makes men, well, men — surges during winning streaks. And that may drive both risk-taking and an attitude of infallibility.
The so-called "winner effect," which has been seen in athletes during competition, also seems to apply to male traders. As the U.K.'s Guardian explained:
This occurs when two males enter a competition and their testosterone levels rise, increasing their muscle mass and the ability of the blood to carry oxygen. It also enhances their appetite for risk. Much of this testosterone stays in the system of the winner of a competition, while the loser's testosterone melts away fast; in evolutionary terms, the loser retires to the woods to lick his wounds. In the next round of competition, though, the winner already has high levels of testosterone, so he starts with an advantage, and this continues to reinforce itself.
"Steroids," Coates explains, "like most chemicals in your body, display what is called an inverted U-shaped response curve." That is to say, when you have low levels of them you lack vitality, and do very poorly at mental and physical tasks. But as the levels rise you get sharper and more focused until you reach an optimum. The key thing is this, however: "If you keep winning, your testosterone level goes past that peak and sliding down the other side. You start doing stupid things. When that happens to animals, they go out in the open too much. They pick too many fights. They neglect parenting duties. And they patrol areas that are too large." In short, they behave like traders on a roll; they get cocky.
Women, who have only 10% of the testosterone that men have, seem inured to the phenomenon, according to Coates. He is currently studying the small group of women who make their living on the trading floors of New York City — but because there are so few of them, he hasn't amassed enough data to make any conclusions about the way their hormones and chemistry may affect behavior.
"We know that opinion diversity is crucial to stable markets," Coates told the Guardian. "What no one talks about is endocrine diversity, a diversity of hormones." It's an unorthodox concept, but Coates believes it's worth investigating.
So, basically, the more women around, the better, as the Journal's Wiedner said. His column referred to a recent book by Dan Abrams called Man Down: Proof Beyond a Reasonable Doubt That Women Are Better Cops, Drivers, Gamblers, Spies, World Leaders, Beer Tasters, Hedge Fund Managers, and Just About Everything Else. Wiedner wrote:
As Abrams notes, women are better soldiers because they complain about pain less. They're less likely to be hit by lightning because they're not stupid enough to stand outside in a storm. They remember words and faces better. They're better spies because they're better at getting people to talk candidly.
Of course, to most women none of this is much of a revelation.Find this article at:
Sunday, June 26, 2011
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Wednesday, June 1, 2011
Nicole and Damillia host May 2011's episode of "The A Word" and discuss the racist/sexist billboard targeting African American women who have abortions, the sheer amount of bills introduced this year to restrict abortion (especially one that legalizes killing doctors who perform abortions), why they open the show by saying that they've had an abortion, and discuss a recent article about black women's supposed unattractiveness.
Saturday, May 28, 2011
I think that is the problem with the anti-choice. They hate the fact that women can have sex, not have babies and live fulfilling lives that are not tied to marriage or commitment. They hate the fact that women can decide what they want to do with their lives. They hate the fact that they cannot control vaginas....and they are doing everything in their power to turn the time back. But here is the thing....we will continue to control our lives....we will not go back. Abortion has been around since the beginning of time and if you don't like it....that is just too bad! I control my body and there is nothing you can do about it!
Friday, May 27, 2011
The story didn't really give a background on whether the woman was high risk, but this was a multiple birth and multiple births are at risk of being preterm. However, no matter what the case was with the pregnancy this woman had the choice to continue with her pregnancy and give birth to twins. Although, only one of the twins was able to survive she had the autonomy to make the decision that was best for her!
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Thursday, May 19, 2011
Check it out here! It's 19 minutes long, cut over3 videos.
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Check it out here. It's 20 minutes long, with 3 videos.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Damillia & Jessica, members of Chicago Abortion Fund's leadership group My Voice, My Choice, hosted October's episode of "The A Word." They discuss the NuvaRing and domestic violence awareness month.
Check it out here! Three videos total, 24 minutes long.
If you, or someone you know is involved in an unhealthy relationship that you need to talk to someone about, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at: 1−800−799−SAFE (7233)
Friday, May 13, 2011
September's episode is now up! Click here to be directed to the playlist. It's in 3 parts on Youtube, totaling 25 minutes.
In September, Brittany & Nicole discussed Depo Provera (aka "The Shot") and why talking about abortion is so important. They also brought up issues on poverty, welfare, women of color, the Hyde Amendment, and reflected on what being in Chicago Abortion Fund's has afforded them.
Check it out!
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Thursday, May 5, 2011
I was on the CTA Red line this morning when this black man boarded the train. He introduced himself and said that he just wanted to pass out job opportunities for his fellow brothers and sisters. This stranger exemplified community. This man didn't know any of us, yet he felt obligated to inform us about job opportunities. This is what I mean when I say "we lack that sense of community". We need to all become one unit and educate each other on these issues that are plaguing our communities. These issues like homelessness, birth control, health care, sex education, nutrition, education, employment etc. Because if we don't, who will?
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
You see caring for a community requires you to get your hands dirty - and that would require real engagement - not just blowing steam. Something others tend to do very well until PEOPLE NEED REAL RESOURCES!
This is only the beginning! We will be back!
Monday, April 18, 2011
Sunday, April 17, 2011
First and foremost I am brought back to why this blog page exists. The Chicago Abortion Fund helps a poor woman or teenage girl pay for her abortion procedure. In 2007 we added another component to our work that was critically important. We began to engage the women that we have served, provide them with leadership development opportunities and a place where they could make their voices heard on issues that affect their lives. The "My Voice, My Choice" leadership group was born. The women in this group have had abortions and believe that they have the right to participate in this discourse.
As Audre Lorde said, "your silence will not protect you" and as bell hooks continued, "to move from silence to speech is a revolutionary act". So that is the point of this blog. To give those women the opportunity to be who they are and speak what they feel on abortion, reproductive justice and any other topic at hand. So pretty much this is about their choice and their voice.
It is obvious that both sides of the abortion argument continue to not see eye to eye on this issue. Furthermore, there is no convincing those that don't see outside their frame of reference. What I can agree on is that everyone has their opinion and is entitled to it. However, this blog is pretty much like our home. You can visit, drop in and check us out. If you are disrespectful or want to rant and rave - this is not the place for you. If you don't like what we say that is fine too. You don't have to visit. And because it is our home, we can monitor the activity and behavior here - just like you would do in your own home.
This is not a place to debate people from the other side back and forth. There is no point to that. This is where we can agree! Neither side is going to be convinced so the energy it takes to go back and forth is not worth it. It is not about not seeing or even understanding the opinion of someone else. This is a blog for women that have had abortions (I've had several). If you want to rant and rave - you have the right to make your own blog and completely express yourself.
No one is scared or intimated by the opinions you or others that don't believe in choice spew. However, this is not the place for it. As for following this blog so that you can "know the tactics of our opposition" - I hope you are getting something out of allowing a woman the opportunity have her voice heard on these issues. Being a coward is hiding behind cloaks of secrecy and afraid to put your name to your opinions. I am not going to debate someone that can't, won't or refuse to think outside their framework.
I came to this movement 5 1/2 years ago with no experience in this movement. I had abortions but didn't know what the terms of pro-choice and anti-choice meant. I am still learning so much and that is why is important that the women we serve be able to participate as well. After becoming a grandmother and seeing my beautiful grandson, that cemented in my heart my belief that every woman deserves choice....whether we agree with it or not. My grandson was his mother's choice. No one tried to talk her into anything. And that I can appreciate, understand and value. She has the support systems in place to help her. My grandchild eats every day, is clean and well taken care of. This is choice!
My children - the ones I chose to have - have been well cared for, are well adjusted and extraordinary human beings. I was not forced to parent before I was ready or able. That is choice. Choice is also the women that call for help but change their mind and continue their pregnancy. There are so many shades of gray to a woman's life - and it is not up to me to force my opinions and what I believe at her. This is choice.
I don't garden but I grow beautiful green plants in my home.
I follow the political climate of this country more than I really want to.
I give back, mentor women and girls, help the homeless, clean the city streets and a host of other volunteer give backs.
I help children here in the United States - you know the ones that people choose to ignore.
I also am a sounding board for teenage girls that need someone to talk to.
I go to church and tithe because it is about the building of our spiritual community.
I fast, pray, meditate and do yoga because it is good for me.
Matthew 7:1 - "Do not judge, or you too will be judged"
Romans 2:1 - "You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things"
John 8:7 - ""If any one of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her."
Now back to our regularly scheduled program!
Saturday, April 16, 2011
so legislative updates:
your representatives are on spring break....perfect time to do in-district visits! write letters to the editors! spread the word!
vote YES to HB1619
vote NO to HB786
vote NO to HB3156
women deserve choice! :)
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
The games people play....."Life Always" and their billboards posted up to buildings that sit in areas of neglect. Do they believe in "Life Always"? Well not really, but it makes for good media exposure. Give me a break!